Friday, May 08, 2009


The quote on top of the image is from a site I found with tips for "Self-Development." As Muslims we should all be striving to better ourselves, and that means in our deen and as a part of society. It's especially important now that we tackle the responsibilities facing us as an ummah, and rise to meet the challenges that await us.

I'm trying to work on improving myself, so inshaaAllaah I will be reading different materials on leadership and development and also on Islam, and trying to relate them. As part of my process of learning and internalizing what I've learned, I will try inshaaAllaah to share these things on my blog, under the tag Personal Development, of which this is the first post. (I would call it 'Self-Development' but I don't want it to sound like the suggestion is to develop a person's nafs. If anyone has a better idea for a tag, please let me know.)

The first post, then, is about balance.

It's popular today for people to talk about balance--achieving balance between all their aspirations and obligations so they don't fail in either.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "The religion (of Islam) is easy, and whoever makes the religion a rigour, it will overpower him. So, follow a middle course (in worship); if you can't do this, do something near to it and give glad tidings and seek help (of Allah) at morn and at dusk and some part of night". [Al-Bukhari].

Following a middle course is what balance means. Islam does not mean that we observe only our spiritual obligations and totally neglect our worldly lives. We live in this world, while striving for the next world, so we need to be aware of the rights that others have over us--the rights of our Lord, the rights of our families, the rights of our bodies--and respect those rights.

In the Seerah class I took a couple months ago, we learned a little bit about Abraham, and were able to draw a lesson about balance from it. In fact, we can learn priorities from his story in the Qur'an. First we can look at people today and see what their priorities tend to be--self first, then family, and then religion. Right? Sometimes people even say "number one" when talking about themselves, indicating that even the society understands that a person prioritizes himself above all--and then he might place his family. Maybe if the person is married or children, these goals will be intertwined, but last of all comes the religion, and obligations before God.

In Islam, the priorities are that the deen comes first, the worship of Allah. Then comes families, followed by our physical needs. You can look at the du'a made by Abraham in the Qur'an, in Surah Ibraheem (14):
35 And (remember) when Ibrahim (Abraham) said: "O my Lord! Make this city (Makkah) one of peace and security, and keep me and my sons away from worshipping idols.

36 "O my Lord! They have indeed led astray many among mankind. But whoso follows me, he verily is of me. And whoso disobeys me, - still You are indeed Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

37 "O our Lord! I have made some of my offspring to dwell in an uncultivable valley by Your Sacred House (the Ka'bah at Makkah); in order, O our Lord, that they may perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat), so fill some hearts among men with love towards them, and (O Allah) provide them with fruits so that they may give thanks.

There is another similar du'a in Surat al-Baqarah, (2:126-129) which is the du'a made when Abraham is leaving his wife and child in the valley--it's interesting because the request for provision is mentioned before belief, but Abraham is actually only requesting the provision for those who believe in the first place. The du'a quoted above is after Ishmael has grown up and Abraham has visited him again in Makkah. (Chronology determined by the statement "make this a safe city" vs. "make this city safe," a subtle difference implying that in the latter case the city has been established.) The city has been established and so Abraham requests that he and his progeny be protected from shirk.

So we can get an idea for priorities here, but also understand that everything needs to be in balance.

To close, I will quote a statement from the instructor of that seminar on the Seerah, that loosely paraphrases a hadith recorded by Ibn Majah, at-Tabarani, and al-Bayhaqi, which can be read here.

Whoever's concern is the dunya, Allah will make his affairs disperse and will put poverty between his eyes. And nothing will come from the dunya except what Allah has written for him. But whoever's concern is the hereafter, Allah will gather all his affairs--put barakah (blessing) in his time, he can be focused--and will enrich his heart, that he will feel rich, content and not poor, and the dunya will come whether looking for it or not.

So the point of this post is that we need to have balance in our daily lives, which comes from prioritizing our efforts for the Hereafter. And the beauty of Islam is that it is balanced, and attending to the rights of others on us is prescribed as is attending the rights of Allah.

If there are any mistakes in this post, they are my own, and I pray that someone will correct them.


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Mahdiya said...

Assalamu alai'kum sister!
I just found your blog and was wondering how to 'follow' you?
I know it's a weird question to ask but you don't have a 'follow' bit on your profile.