Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Hurts like ----

Last week I got in a car wreck... mostly okay except being sore and some bruises on my arm (including my finger which is still swollen.) My car is done for, and the insurance is paying me some money for it, so inshallah this week I can try to look into getting another one. For the time being a friend of mine has let me borrow hers, may Allah reward her.

I've been thinking about the value of leadership, lately. Such a highly valued skill nowadays is to be able to lead, and to get people to like you. But the thing is, as soon as you become a leader, people hate you. I never really encountered this hatred until recently, and it's torn me up. There are things now that I just don't know how to handle. Criticism of my marital status, assumptions (incorrect ones) about my opinions, personal attacks on my character, and even a death wish... I just don't know how to handle it, or how to make it stop. I've never wanted so badly to run away from anything as much as I wanted to run away from this--all this from Muslims--and the only help is from non-Muslims. What's wrong with the world? It makes me hurt.


Gold said...

Books and books can be written about that.. the most important thing is that we don't often ask "What is wrong with me?? Why am I so inable to feel? Why am I so able to hurt others?"..

That's a blessing alhamdulillah..

About what is wrong with the world, we're in a journey to find out!a Journey with a one-way ticket.


Anonymous said...

Assalamu aleykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh,

Being a leader is TOUGH! Somehow, you have to be friend at the same time you are in charge. It’s a position that not everyone can handle. Not everyone will like what you have to say. Stand strong and stick to your guns.

Be a good listener and don’t give up. Everyone does not have to like you. All that matters is if you are doing the right things and if Allah, subhannah wa talla, likes you.

There are always people who make their own assumptions. Don’t take them personally. They may not know what it takes to be a good leader.

Listen to criticism objectively. If there is something of value in the criticism then use it to better yourself. If not, throw it out and don’t worry about it.

Oh Sis, you are very strong and intellegent. Have faith in yourself and you will soar to heights that you cannot imagine. Insha’Allah.

May Allah, subhannahu wa talla, grant you strength, peace and wisdom. Ameen.

Your sister in Islam,
Tahira (Lilac)

Anonymous said...

assalamu alaikum sis,

sis Tahira gave you a very good advice mashaAllah..i don't have alot to add but there is a beautiful hadith

"The muslim who meets with people and endures any harm they may do is better than he who does not mix with them and does not endure any harm they may do". ( Tirmidhi )

and subhanaAllah this is how hard it was siince long ago, so take it (easy) :)
your sis,